Marriage Repair Attempts

I found this empty draft just now and I wonder what I was going to write back in 2009 when I created this. I have a vastly different view of what attempts I made in my marriage to my first wife these days. Mostly because I’ve forgotten so much, but also because I’ve just put the whole thing behind me. I am so happy with JM, it’s frickin’ amazing. I think the biggest thing I did to try to repair my marriage to Melanie was to be patient. My teacher, Burton Lester, advised me to just forgive everything that she did that was hurting me and to just LOVE her. At first, this was incredibly hard because I took everything she did personally and I let it hurt me. Her lies, her infidelity, and her basic low sense of morality and honesty got the best of me. I wanted to get her to change so much. As soon as I decided that I didn’t have to let any of that bother me, I was fine. I gathered so much strength by letting it go. I remember how she used to leave every time I was putting the children down to sleep. I be in one of their bedrooms and “Vroom!” she would start the car and take off. It was easier to do it while I was putting the children to sleep since I wasn’t in any way able to try to convince her to stay home instead of run to the person she was having an affair with. I got to the point, where I was at peace with myself and even when she would leave. I would still be awake when she got home late in the morning. She would walk in and I would just say something like, “Did you have fun?” Other times, I would be upstairs in bed and she would come in and I could smell another man on her. It was quite turbulent at times, but like I said, as soon as I let it all go and not bother me, I gained strength I didn’t know I had.

What I think Apple is doing.

I clearly am no expert about Apple's business, but I have been a fan of their products for decades. It seems to me that they are poising themselves to finally topple or take a huge bite out of Microsoft's empire.

With cell phones outselling computers nearly 4 to 1, it seems that the cell phone is becoming the "new platform" for one's digital life. For a while, before cell phones, the personal computer was THE PLATFORM and Microsoft dominated it clearly. Of course Microsoft still is HUGE compared to Apple. Selling 140 million copies of Vista compared to 2 million of OS X. However, with Apples true domination of the cellphone / smartphone market, we could see a shifting of the market and a stealthy behind the scene shift in platform.

If the iPhone starts to DO everything that the market wants it to do, then many won't even get a traditional, stay at home computer. Why get a machine that doesn't travel with you, you have to pay EXTRA for it's Internet connection, and you have to copy files off it if you want to take them with you. I think many consumers will make the choice of an iPhone or an Apple UMPC instead of the traditional computer.

The Apple Air Book and iPhone are a real hint at what Apple could be producing in the next year or two. It seems to be that there needs to be a device that's right in the middle of these two products. A slate sized, ultra mobile PC, that will allow a person to easily take their entire computing, communications and entertainment environment with them seems to be in the product line for Apple. At least, that's what I would be producing if I was Steve Jobs.

Someone is going to do it, and right now, it seems that Apple is the best poised to do this. I think MicroSoft is aware of it and will be in a weak position to do anything about it. Apple has an amazing foot-hold with the iPhone and I look forward to a UMPC product from them. I know that I'll be in line for such a product if it is produced as it will be the best and most history changing device in computing today. Finally, everyone will be connected, where ever they go.

Dear Spring, you may arrive at any time

I can't wait until Spring gets here. I have a new liner to put in my pool and a deck to build around it so my kids can easily jump in it. I can't wait to make all this happen. My life seems to be centered around my home and the many, MANY projects that need my attention. It's all fun though. Always has been.

Latest news

Life continues to get better. John and I successfully installed Microsoft's Exchange Server at Ashley McGraw in January and it's proven to be a great success. The company now has shared calendaring, contacts, and tasks. A lot of the new employees were asking for it since they used it where they worked previously, but at least half had no idea how much they liked it.

Got a new iPhone at work. These little devices are amazing. I've never worked with a device that was so well engineered and so fluid in function. Plus I can carry all my heavy metal music in it too! Uhm, and some Wham! and Sade.

Just some thoughts....

Hmmm....so much to tell. At this point in my life, I couldn't feel more capable, more alive, or more independent. I'll spare you the details (if you can't tell I was recently divorced), but the last year of my life has been a sea of change. At first, I was frightened and insulted, but in a few months, that gave way to resolve and incentive to plan. Those middle months lead to confidence and the achieving of goals I hadn't dreamt before. Some where along the way I heard the saying, "All this works together for good." Well, in my case, this certainly has come true.

My new web site that will change the world.

I'm posting it now because no one will believe me when they find out that I've been thinking about this idea for so long. No web site out there has been created that provides an aggregation of massive opinions. I think there is tremendous value in creating a website that is devoted to MASS opinion. We often want change to occur, but don't really know how to articulate and gather the numerous agreeing members of society to present to those that can make the change.

AKA -- the public speaking to its government.

I intead to create that massive voice so that no one longer will it be just one persons voice swallow up in the din of societies many roars, but it will be a focusing of many citizens who feel the same way, speaking as one.

This is going to be so cool.

Crazy winter snow.

I didn't have a car today and was really hungry at about 11 AM. So I IM'd Paul and asked if he wanted to go eat and Gino and Joe's (which is actually no longer Gina and Joe's) -- I forgot what it's called. In any case, it seems they make the Chicken Parm with Pasta special the same way as it was YUMMMEEEEE.

Paul told me a funny story about his daughter and her alarm clock. You'll have to check his blog for full details. Does Paul have a blog? I don't know. I'll have to ask him.

It snowed like crazy while we were eating and we had to sweep off the before we went back to work and then the road were just crazy. I didn't even have him take me back to work. I work just across the street so I just had him park. Syracuse gets so much snow. I used to like it. I don't so much now.

Anyways, I didn't go to my night job (well not physically) -- I stayed home and worked remotely. It's been a long evening. I'm bushed.